Family
Wearing My Grief On My Sleeve
And somewhere in there, as my hands ached from the work, I began to grieve
Untangling the Horrors of Being Parented Resentfully
In the ‘Beloved,’ ‘The Baby,’ and ‘Barbarian,’ Black women grapple with vengeful mothers and children. In my life, I’ve broken that cycle.
An Autistic Girl’s Guide to Horses
Learning I was autistic gave me insight into my childhood fixations and hurts, into how those things have stayed with me over the decades.
Revenge Travel Helped Me Learn to Manage My Anxiety
Though I estranged myself from my toxic family, their hold on my mind still needed to let me go. So I got on a plane and left.
Taking on the Feminine Labor of Creating Holiday Magic
I can’t give up the invisible labor of making “holiday magic” because that’s how I feel closest to my late mother.
The Mom in ‘Home Alone’ Is a Messy and Magnificent Model of Motherhood
Is Kate McCallister a “good mom”? That’s beside the point. Her example shows the shallowness of such standards: She loves her kid. She proves it.
Instagram Makes Parents Feel More Clueless Than We Really Are
All these self-styled experts online drown out the intuitive voice of the parent and sow doubt in every decision that they make.
Pickles Taught Me the Art of Self-Preservation
I was not suspended in a timeless brine like my pickles. I was not a stoic javelin of cellulose waiting to strike a bored palette. My answers would not be in rigidity, in control.
David Attenborough Helps Me Explain the Climate Crisis to My Son
I use his favorite David Attenborough shows to help me explain my climate activism
The Price of Admission for Fat Bodies
Anyone who has lost and subsequently gained weight back can tell you that you will be treated differently in real, material ways. The difference is at once alluring and painful.