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How to Date While You’re Grieving
The point of dating is to get to know another person. It’s a process made more confusing when, in my grief, I’m getting reacquainted with myself.
This is How a Friendship Ends: A Recipe for Miso Ginger Carrot Bisque
This is an essay about soup, but it is also about friendship. Or rather, this is an essay about soup and how a friendship ends.
Kurt Cobain Pushed the Boundaries of Gender and Made Room for Us All
Nirvana took every step to sand the edges of rock’s obsessive relationship with toxic masculinity.
To All the Brooklyn Brownstones I’ve Loved Before
The brownstone stood for everything I wanted: solidity and urbanity, possibility and permanence. I could see it, stand inside it, even sleep there. But it wasn’t mine.
Dear Shinhwa, I Found My Joy in K-Pop Fandom
Joy is not something I’ve carried naturally.
Studying the Antlion Taught Me How to Be Human
As a behavioral ecologist, I was asking of the natural world the very questions I was too scared to ask of myself and those around me.
‘And Just Like That’ Isn’t Perfect, But It Gets Grief Right
In the ‘Sex and the City’ reboot, Carrie Bradshaw’s arc is one of the most truthful depictions of mourning I’ve ever seen on TV.
Before My ADHD Diagnosis, I Looked to Astrology for Answers
An accurate astrological picture gave me a sense of control over the different way my mind worked.
After the Green Ribbon
The story of the girl with the green ribbon was once a generic tale of horror. Now, it is about about gender.
Bridging My Family’s Language Barrier, One Filthy Russian Idiom at a Time
My family may not get much of my writing, but our mutual appreciation for ill-advised sexual mayhem transcends language.