Columns | Grief at a Distance

How to Date While You’re Grieving

The point of dating is to get to know another person. It’s a process made more confusing when, in my grief, I’m getting reacquainted with myself.

This is Grief at a Distance, a column by Matt Ortile examining his grief over his mother’s death in the Philippines during the Covid-19 pandemic.


What would parenthood mean to you?Who wouldn’t be there? Who could fit into it?

I’m sorryI’m sorry for your loss

have you breathed today?

no longer

I’m sorry


I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’m sorry if I’m coming across as dead inside. If I cry suddenly at dinner, please know that it’s not totally without reason.Are you up for this?

Thank you, Matt, for holding space with me tonight as you grieve. we

FineLet this be my litmus test. Let my grief weed out the weak.

A Grief Observed

Would you like to walk together?

Inside the Actors StudioShe’s waiting for you.