Relationships
Bad Friend Art
Colin Farrell’s friend breakup in ‘The Banshees of Inisherin’ is eerily similar to my own. His is just more cinematic.
Mourning In and Out of Our Clothes
Where does my style begin and his taste end? My suitcase is overflowing with meaning I can’t handle anymore.
Fostering
As a queer person, I’d had no role models growing up, had to stumble through every relationship, learning how to love as best I could. Dog fostering was a kind of parallel crash course.
For Queer Girls, Simping Is a Love Language
I’m embracing the label, with all its yearning, try-hard connotations, because desire shouldn’t be embarrassing and love does require trying hard.
Finding Love When You’re Forty and Happily Single
My identity is tied up in my singleness, my childlessness, and I’m not sure I want to let that go.
Unlearning My Immigrant Mother’s Ideas of Beauty
Like many immigrant daughters, I’m of a lineage of women who didn’t put themselves first.
After My Divorce, I Found Comfort in Cohousing
I’m not sure I want to be vulnerable or join a community. I’m not sure I even remember how.
Group Chats Don’t Replace Friendship—They Can Keep It Alive
The group chat is a means, not an end. Not what our friendship is, but what keeps it alive.
Embracing My Queerness in the Wake of Grief
I wondered how I would confront what I thought was my worst: my sexuality.
To Get Through My Divorce, I Raised the Golem
It was an acrimonious divorce. I wanted justice. I settled for truth.