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Staying Sober Through 2020
On January 6, 2021, I was 1,328 days sober. As domestic terrorists attempted a coup on the United States government, my heart broke for anyone on Day 6 of sobriety.
Longboarding My Way Out of Loneliness
When I tried to skateboard as a kid, the neighborhood boys refused to welcome me. Now, women and gender-diverse people are creating skateboarding communities all over the world.
How to Be Gay and Safe in Nigeria
“The singular duty you owe yourself is to be alive. Don’t jeopardize that for unsolvable peril.”
How I Learned to Stop Judging and Love Insta-Witches
“The whole idea of a spell is that you send your intention outward into the universe—what if the Internet is just another way to do that?”
How Do I Accept That My Friends Have Moved On Without Me?
There is no way to ask the question “Why don’t you like me anymore?” that will bring you peace.
Why I Wanted to Write About Anger
I want to write about space and time, and feeling like somehow we’ve always had less of it than our male counterparts.
How Do I Keep My Old Work Friends Without the Old Work Drama?
“Friendship is here to delight and expand and challenge and deepen you, not to be a hand dragging you back into the pit.”
Please Don’t Pray for Us—We’ll Have Children When We’re Ready!
People I hardly knew implied that without children, I was failing as a woman, a Muslim, and a human being.
I’m Just Not That Into Him (As a Friend)—How Do I Gently Shut Him Down?
“Think of yourself as Beyoncé, or Lin-Manuel Miranda: Everyone wants to be friends with them, and that’s not possible.”
How Not to Do Peyote When You’re Panicking About Fascism
If many voters had emptied their minds of reason and empathy, had these spiritual tourists not done the same?