Catapult | I Give Up
Letting Go of My Toxic Ambition

I was agitated by the sensation that saying yes to everything and no to nothing, rising to the occasion, going above and beyond, was supposed to be the worthiest thing about me.

Jun 6, 2022
Columns | Gold Stars
What to Do With Your Twenties When Your Life Plans Fall Apart

It’s a strange sort of self-reliance, thinking you can out-plan the grief, and heartbreak, and confusion of growing up.

Mar 17, 2022
Columns | Gold Stars
To Every Woman Who Spent Her Twenties Apologizing

I squeezed myself in around other people’s priorities and problems, all the while saying: Take up all the room you want. I will make myself fit.

Nov 18, 2021
People | Columns | Gold Stars
Your Friend Group Should Look Like the Cast of a Twenty-Something Drama (and Other Myths About Millennial Friendship)

New responsibilities clogged up phone lines and changed what used to be lifelines—how were we supposed to maintain our relationships?

Sep 30, 2021
Don’t Write Alone | Writing Life
Setting Boundaries is the First Step to Becoming a “Real Writer”

I wanted to be a writer, and I thought my work-life balance was the price I had to pay. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

Aug 30, 2021
Columns | Family | Gold Stars
My Mom’s Pandemic Piano Taught Me You Can Always “Find Yourself”

It was the first time I’d ever noticed growth or newness this way: reclaiming, or returning, rather than overhauling and chasing.

Jul 22, 2021
Columns | Gold Stars
The Obsession with “Getting Ahead” in Your Twenties Is Failing Young People

Why do we need measuring sticks like college and marriage and leaving home to track our worth?

May 27, 2021
Places | Columns | Gold Stars
To All the Coffeeshops I’ve Called Home

I drove past the third places that I’d grown up in and, through the eyes of an adult, saw a person shaped by spaces that are in-between.

Apr 29, 2021