Columns
In ‘My Best Friend’s Wedding,’ I Found My Gay Role Model: Julia Roberts
There are two gay men in “My Best Friend’s Wedding.” There’s Rupert Everett, then there’s the gay man I wanted to be—Julia Roberts’ character, Julianne Potter.
I’ll Fight Anyone Who Says You Shouldn’t Put Cheese on Your Ramyun
Ramen is comfort food, a thing to soak up your regrets and get you through a rough day. But my favorite way to enjoy it has courted great controversy among my friends and family.
When People See Your Blindness as Superhuman, They Stop Seeing You as Human
The sixth sense, second sight, third eye. We are supposed to have both extra-accurate hearing and perfect pitch, more numerous and more acute taste buds, a finer touch, a bloodhound’s sense of smell.
When You’re a Mom with Anxiety Disorder, You Know the Monsters Are Real
I have such immense anxiety. It sweeps me up into its furious winds. And my kids are at the middle of the storm.
How I Learned to Tell Signal from Noise and Appreciate Calm
It can be easy to confuse real emotion with the shiny drama enfolding it. Sometimes grand gestures are signs of grand feeling—sometimes they’re not.
“The Fifth Element” Was Made For Straight Boys—The Gay Ones Made It For Themselves
My family enjoyed “The Fifth Element” without seeing how queer it was. Did that mean they could not see how queer I was?
Why Canterbury Tales Is the Ultimate Road Trip Story
How do we pass the time while traveling from Point A to Point B? What stories do we tell one another, and how do those stories connect?
Why You Should Be Watching Maangchi, the Korean Cooking YouTube Star
I used to imagine having a Korean mother, someone rich in stories and jokes about Korean food and culture. My Korean mom would, ideally, be Maangchi.
How Disney’s Animated Movies Awakened My Queer Imagination
Animation can teach a kid a lot about themselves and the world around them. Disney movies taught me about my queer desires.
The Beauty of Spaces Created For and By Disabled People
It is very rare, as a disabled person, that I have an intense sense of belonging, of being not just tolerated or included in a space, but actively owning it.