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Why We Shouldn’t Call Adoptees “Lucky”

If all adoptees felt not only safe, but empowered in their families and their communities, I would feel better—but not lucky.

After we got home, I tucked my baseball bat by my bedside—just in case I heard footsteps come up the stairs, just in case someone had finally come for us.

These are the words my mom, Mary, heard repeated to her the day of our field trip. A panel of three judges had overturned my adoption, granting custody to an extended relative of my birth family.