Columns | Grief at a Distance

I Can’t Defeat My Grief, But I’m Learning to Carry It

In video games, dead parent storylines give a character depth. Their grief becomes a plot point, something to overcome.

This is Grief at a Distance, a column by Matt Ortile examining his grief over his mother’s death in the Philippines during the Covid-19 pandemic.

Pokémon Shield

i who have died am alive Fire Emblem: Three Houses

Fire Emblem: Three Houses

Three Houses

Three Houses


Three Houses

The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild

Breath of the Wild

Pokémon Sapphire

Hyrule Warriors: Age of Calamity



And at times, when the grief waxes, or blocks the path forward, I can choose to rest. As she once advised, I can indulge and play.

Ori and the Blind Forest. (

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