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A Case of Picnic Anxiety

Introducing End It Now?, an advice column. Question 1: What to do about nervous tics?

Welcome to End It Now?, a narrative advice column. In each installment, Alissa Nutting and Dean Bakopoulos will address a question from a reader who is thinking  about quitting something:  a relationship, a job, a habit, a project. Dean and Alissa will respond with stories from their lives and the lives of others, and then deliver a verdict: Should the letter-writer end it now, or not so much, and why? 


Dear Alissa and Dean:

I am somewhat of an anxious person. When my anxiety is acting up, I start to rub my thighs or gnaw at the skin on the fingers. It’s second nature—I perform these actions without my brain even registering that I’m doing it. My mother says she can always tell when I’m nervous, and she thinks this is becoming a social barrier for me. Yes, it’s annoying; on the other hand, I’m not hurting anyone, and my tics do help me. They make me feel like I have control over something in a world where so many things are out of my hands. Do I need to end this simple habit?


Anxious Reader


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