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Podcasts and Tarot Reading Showed Me How to Be Real Instead of “Good”

It is not enough to be pretty. It is not enough to be obedient, or deferential, or useful. Being not a problem is not enough for a person to live on.

This is, a monthly column by Sarah Lyn Rogers on finding self and community in digital spaces.

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But could I trust that he did not, in some tiny part of him, also hate me a little? Wasn’t that just how people who loved me sometimes expressed it?

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Someone who finds your sadness and rage hilarious does not see you as a real person. You might be a sidekick or a secretary or a gold-star worker, but you are not a precious, tender, holy human being.

Tarot for the Wild Soul


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